People do what they want

 Perspective

People do what they want

I've long had the belief that people will ALWAYS do what they want.  I've been told its rubbish but none-the-less here what I believe... 

• People will always do what they want unless internally (within themselves something stops them) or externally they are inhibited by one or multiple factors.
• People will never do what they want unless forced by some external factors.
• If people are forced to do things, they do not want to do they will not do them as well as if they themselves wanted it.

and here is why I believe that...

The Want Scale Example:

	INHIBITORS
	INTERNAL	EXTERNAL
I want to do something and there is nothing to stop me.  I will do it	No internal fears of repercussion or reprisal	External inhibitors exist such as The law, public opinion, opinion of friends or relatives. But as stated the individual is able to put these aside as their desire to do it exceeds their fear of repercussion or reprisal
I do not want to do something I am told I must do.   They will then do the task but almost never as well (speed and quality) as when they wanted and enjoyed doing it.	The individual has internal fears of repercussion or reprisal.  These are perhaps driven by love for another so a fear of hurting or disappointing them as an example.	They do it in order to live (work). Peer pressure (which falls into the internal) They do it under duress. Truly forced like a jail/prison term or under threat of physical harm to themselves or others
The just won’t do it because they don’t want to and have no forces making them.	No internal fears of repercussion or reprisal	External inhibitors exist such as The law, public opinion, opinion of friends or relatives. But as stated the individual is able to put these aside as their desire to do it exceeds their fear of repercussion or reprisal

 

Now to put that into a personal example:

	INHIBITORS
	INTERNAL	EXTERNAL
I want to loose weight.   Note: I may choose a way that is unhealthy or risky but if there are not variables I feel more important I will do it.	No internal fears of repercussion or reprisal   In fact I may even be supported by various external opportunities or personnel	Nothing to stop me if I truly want it regardless of any health or other aspects that may be deleterious.
I’m told I must lose weight for health reasons   They will then do the task but almost never as well (speed and quality) as when they wanted and enjoyed doing it.	I don’t want to lose weight but I love my spouse more and want her affection and to be proud of me.  These are my internal fears of repercussion or reprisal driven by love for another so a fear of hurting or disappointing them.	There are so many external forces that could push this but from my perspective it all boils down to influencing the internal.
I don’t want to lose weight and nothing stops me.	No internal fears of repercussion or reprisal	I may even get support from co-dependent family or spouse